Thoughts on Stalkers

Stalker: A person who harasses or persecutes someone with unwanted and obsessive attention. (Thank you OED)

So, yesterday on FB, I saw this article. It’s all about how an author named Kathleen Hale stalked a Goodreads user and book blogger because the blogger gave her an unfavorable review on a book.

This wasn’t the first time she had stalked someone. She also did when she was younger and ended up pouring peroxide over that person’s head.

Hale now has a book called Kathleen Hale Is a Crazy Stalker. It’s 6 essays that she has written about her experiences. Because, of course, that’s just what you do when you’re a stalker. You write some essays about it, publish a book, and revictimize your victims. But, back to the book blogger.

Apparently, Hale actually went to the blogger’s house and left a “present” on their porch, after having gotten the address from a book club who asked Hale if she wanted a blogger to work with her. She agreed, providing it was this particular person. All of this is stuff that Hale freely admits to. It’s not her stalkee’s POV, it’s all Hale’s.

Now, this is kind of scary. I mean, Hale justifies her stalking because she says the review stopped people from buying her book. I’m pretty sure that if people liked it, they would have bought it, but that’s neither here nor there. The fact is, she seems to see nothing wrong with what she did. The former blogger no longer blogs and doesn’t even review anymore. I’ll bet anything that they have their social media presence locked down super tight.

Stalking happens. It happens in real life. It happens in cyber-life. It happens to people like me, who aren’t famous in any way, shape or form, and who chose to break up with their crazy, controlling, abusive ex. It happens to authors. I can name 3 separate authors who are currently dealing with crazy stalker people. Those people spend a lot of time making new IDs in order to keep track of the authors and cause them all kinds of problems.

There’s no way to get stop stalking, really. The law has a hard enough time dealing with people in real life stalking you. But when you get into the cyber stuff, the law just isn’t there to match the technology yet, and it never will be, especially when you can end up with stalkers in some tiny Eastern European country with the victims in some tiny US village. We can do our best to fight it, but, that’s about all we can do right now.

We, as a society, shouldn’t support stalkers, and we certainly don’t have to reward them by buying their books.

So, Kathleen, bye, girl, bye.

bye felicia

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